Initial Revelation & Validation
The friend reveals the disappointing news and expresses their initial feelings (e.g., sadness, anger, frustration). The comforter listens actively and validates their friend's emotions without minimization.
朋友透露失望的消息并表达最初的感受（例如，悲伤、愤怒、沮丧）。安慰者积极倾听并认可朋友的情绪，不予轻视。
对话
聆听并跟进对话
词汇
对话中的必备词汇和短语
gutted
This means feeling very upset or devastated, like your heart is broken. It's often used in British English to express deep disappointment, such as after losing something important.
这意味着感到非常难过或 devastated，就像你的心碎了一样。它经常在英国英语中使用来表达深刻的失望，例如在失去重要东西之后。
crushing
This describes something that feels like a heavy blow, causing great disappointment or emotional pain. Use it to show sympathy, e.g., 'That's crushing news.'
这描述了像沉重打击一样的东西，会引起极大的失望或情感痛苦。使用它来表示同情，例如，'那是个毁灭性的消息。'
hopeful
Feeling optimistic or expecting a positive outcome. It's useful when talking about building expectations, like 'I was hopeful about the job.'
感到乐观或期待积极的结果。在谈论建立期望时很有用，比如‘我对这份工作充满希望。’
effort
Hard work or energy put into something. In conversations, it acknowledges someone's dedication, e.g., 'You put in a lot of effort.'
投入某事物的辛勤工作或能量。在对话中，它承认某人的奉献，例如，'你投入了很多努力。'
frustrated
Feeling annoyed or upset because of unmet goals or obstacles. Common in emotional talks, like 'I feel frustrated when things don't go as planned.'
因为目标未实现或遇到障碍而感到恼怒或难过。常见于情感对话中，比如“我在事情没有按计划进行时感到沮丧。”
unfair
Not just or equal, often used to express anger about unequal treatment. Say it to validate feelings, e.g., 'It feels unfair, doesn't it?'
不公正或不平等，常用于表达对不平等对待的愤怒。说出来以验证感受，例如，'感觉不公平，不是吗？'
关键句型
需要记住和练习的重要短语
Oh no, what happened? Did you… not get it?
This shows active listening and empathy by asking for details gently. The ellipsis (...) indicates hesitation, making it polite. Use it when a friend shares bad news to encourage them to open up.
这通过温和地询问细节来展示积极倾听和共情。省略号（...）表示犹豫，使其礼貌。当朋友分享坏消息时，使用它来鼓励他们敞开心扉。
I'm so sorry to hear that. That's absolutely crushing.
A standard way to express sympathy. 'Absolutely' emphasizes agreement. It's useful for validating disappointment without minimizing it, ideal in comforting situations.
表达同情的一种标准方式。'Absolutely' 强调同意。它有助于在不淡化失望的情况下验证它，在安慰情境中很理想。
It's completely understandable that you're feeling gutted right now.
This validates emotions by saying they're normal. The structure 'It's understandable that...' is a pattern for empathy. Use it to make someone feel heard and supported.
这通过说它们是正常的来验证情绪。'It's understandable that...' 这种结构是一种共情的模式。使用它来让别人感到被倾听和支持。
Don't say that, Emily. It's not stupid to be hopeful, especially when you put so much effort in.
This counters negative self-talk kindly. 'Don't say that' is direct but caring. The relative clause 'when you put so much effort in' explains why. Great for encouraging friends.
这以一种温柔的方式反驳了消极的自我对话。'别这么说'直接但充满关怀。关系从句'when you put so much effort in'解释了原因。非常适合鼓励朋友。
I completely get that. It's natural to feel angry and frustrated when you believe you've done your best but the outcome isn't what you wanted.
Shows deep understanding with 'I completely get that.' The complex sentence explains why the emotion is normal. Use this pattern to validate mixed feelings like anger after disappointment.
用“我完全理解”显示出深刻的理解。复杂的句子解释了为什么这种情绪是正常的。使用这种模式来验证像失望后的愤怒这样的混合情感。