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Handling a Child Conflict

When children get into a minor disagreement or conflict, parents intervene respectfully to help resolve the situation and teach lessons in sharing or turn-taking.

Dialogue

Listen and follow along with the conversation

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Sarah (Female)
Oh dear, it looks like Liam and Maya are having a little disagreement over the red truck.
2
John (Male)
Yeah, Leo usually shares well, but that red one is his favorite. Let's go see what's up.
3
Sarah (Female)
Hey kids, what's going on here? Maya, were you playing with the truck first?
4
John (Male)
Leo, it's important to share our toys, especially when someone else is using them. Maybe you could ask Maya if you can have a turn next?
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Sarah (Female)
That's a good idea, John. Maya, would you be willing to share the red truck after a few more minutes? We can set a timer.
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John (Male)
Or even better, Leo, why don't you offer Maya a different toy to play with right now, and then you can play with the red truck when she's done?
7
Sarah (Female)
See, Maya? Leo is trying to be a good friend. How about we practice taking turns?
8
John (Male)
Exactly. Sharing means everyone gets a chance. Thanks for being understanding, kids.

Vocabulary

Essential words and phrases from the dialogue

disagreement

A small argument or difference of opinion between people, often about something they want. Use it when kids argue over toys.

shares

The third person form of 'share,' meaning to let others use or have part of something. Common in parenting to teach kids generosity.

favorite

The one you like most among several options. Kids often fight over their favorites, so parents use this word to explain preferences.

share

To divide something so others can use it too. It's a key word in teaching children about fairness and kindness.

turn

A short period when you get to do something before someone else. Useful for managing playtime and teaching patience.

timer

A tool or app that counts down time to help with turn-taking. Parents use it to make sharing fair and less argumentative.

offer

To suggest or give something to someone willingly. In conflicts, offering alternatives helps resolve issues peacefully.

understanding

Being patient and willing to accept a situation. Praise kids for being understanding to encourage good behavior.

Key Sentences

Important phrases to remember and practice

Oh dear, it looks like Liam and Maya are having a little disagreement over the red truck.

This sentence expresses mild concern about a problem. 'Oh dear' is an interjection for surprise or worry; 'it looks like' means 'it seems.' Useful for starting a conversation when noticing a small issue among kids.

Yeah, Leo usually shares well, but that red one is his favorite.

This agrees and explains a situation. 'Usually' shows typical behavior; 'but' contrasts it. Great for parenting talks to acknowledge a child's normal habits while noting exceptions.

Hey kids, what's going on here?

A casual way to ask about a situation. 'Hey' is informal for attention; 'what's going on' means 'what is happening.' Use it to intervene gently in children's conflicts without scolding.

Leo, it's important to share our toys, especially when someone else is using them.

This teaches a lesson politely. 'It's important to' states a rule; 'especially' adds emphasis. Ideal for explaining sharing rules to children during playtime disputes.

Maybe you could ask Maya if you can have a turn next?

A suggestion using 'maybe' for politeness and 'could' for possibility. 'Have a turn' means taking your chance. Useful for encouraging kids to communicate instead of grabbing.

Maya, would you be willing to share the red truck after a few more minutes? We can set a timer.

This asks for agreement politely with 'would you be willing to' and offers a solution. 'Set a timer' suggests using time to make turns fair. Perfect for resolving toy conflicts by planning ahead.

Why don't you offer Maya a different toy to play with right now, and then you can play with the red truck when she's done?

A suggestion phrased as a question with 'why don't you' for gentle advice. It proposes an alternative and sequence with 'and then.' Helpful for teaching compromise in parent-child interactions.

Sharing means everyone gets a chance.

This defines a concept simply. 'Means' explains what something is; 'gets a chance' means has an opportunity. Use it to summarize the value of sharing after resolving a conflict.