Articulating Feelings (Using 'I' Statements)
One person expresses their feelings or perceptions about the situation using 'I' statements, focusing on their own experience rather than accusing the other, to avoid defensiveness.
Dialogue
Listen and follow along with the conversation
Vocabulary
Essential words and phrases from the dialogue
left out
Feeling excluded or not included in something, like plans or activities with friends.
intentional
Done on purpose; the opposite is 'unintentional' or accidental.
assumed
To think something is true without checking or confirming; often used when making a wrong guess.
overlooked
To fail to notice or consider something important, like someone's feelings.
my bad
An informal way to say 'my mistake' or 'I apologize' for something you did wrong.
reach out
To contact someone directly, often by message or call, to communicate.
appreciate
To feel grateful for something or someone; shows thanks for understanding or help.
brought it up
To start talking about a topic or issue; useful for raising concerns gently.
Key Sentences
Important phrases to remember and practice
I felt a bit left out yesterday when you guys made plans for dinner without mentioning it to me directly.
This uses an 'I' statement to express feelings without blaming others; start with 'I felt' to focus on your own emotions, which helps avoid arguments.
I know it wasn't intentional, but I just felt a little forgotten.
This acknowledges the other person's good intentions while sharing your feelings; 'but' connects understanding with your experience, making it polite.
I'm really sorry to hear that.
A simple apology that shows empathy; use this to respond when someone shares their hurt feelings, focusing on listening.
I honestly didn't think about it that way.
This admits a mistake without defensiveness; 'honestly' adds sincerity, useful for explaining your perspective calmly.
I understand you assumed that.
Shows active listening by repeating the other's point; starts with 'I understand' to build rapport and de-escalate the situation.
Yeah, I totally get that now.
Expresses full understanding after hearing more; 'totally get' is casual and positive, good for confirming empathy in conversations.
My bad. Next time, I'll definitely make sure to reach out to you directly.
An informal apology followed by a promise to improve; 'next time' shows commitment to change, which resolves misunderstandings effectively.
I appreciate you understanding. It makes a big difference to me.
Expresses thanks for empathy; 'makes a big difference' explains why it matters, helping to strengthen relationships after a talk.