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Active Listening & Seeking Clarification

Escucha Activa y Búsqueda de Clarificación

The other person actively listens to what is being said, seeking clarification by asking open-ended questions and paraphrasing to ensure understanding of the first person's perspective.

La otra persona escucha activamente lo que se está diciendo, buscando aclaraciones mediante preguntas abiertas y reformulaciones para asegurar la comprensión de la perspectiva de la primera persona.

Dialogue

Listen and follow along with the conversation

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Sarah (Female)
Hey Michael, can we talk for a minute? I felt a bit brushed off earlier when I was trying to explain my idea for the project.
Hola Michael, ¿podemos hablar un momento? Me sentí un poco ignorado antes, cuando intentaba explicar mi idea para el proyecto.
2
Michael (Male)
Oh, really? I'm sorry if it came across that way. That wasn't my intention at all. Can you tell me more about what happened?
Oh, ¿en serio? Lo siento si se interpretó de esa manera. No era mi intención en absoluto. ¿Puedes contarme más sobre lo que pasó?
3
Sarah (Female)
Well, I was talking about the new marketing strategy, and it seemed like you immediately jumped to conclusions about its feasibility before I even finished outlining it. It made me feel like my input wasn't valued.
Bueno, estaba hablando de la nueva estrategia de marketing, y pareció que inmediatamente saltaste a conclusiones sobre su viabilidad antes de que yo siquiera terminara de delinearla. Me hizo sentir que mi aportación no era valorada.
4
Michael (Male)
So, if I'm understanding you correctly, you felt I dismissed your thoughts too quickly and didn't give your idea a fair hearing? Is that right?
Entonces, si te entiendo correctamente, sentiste que descarté tus pensamientos demasiado rápido y no le di una audiencia justa a tu idea? ¿Es eso correcto?
5
Sarah (Female)
Exactly. It felt like you'd already made up your mind, and I just wanted to be heard fully before any judgments were made.
Exactamente. Me dio la impresión de que ya te habías hecho una idea, y solo quería ser escuchado completamente antes de cualquier juicio.
6
Michael (Male)
I see. I apologize, Sarah. I was probably trying to be efficient and didn't realize how that might have come across. My thought process was more about identifying potential challenges early, not dismissing your creativity.
Entiendo. Me disculpo, Sarah. Probablemente estaba tratando de ser eficiente y no me di cuenta de cómo podría haber sonado eso. Mi proceso de pensamiento se centraba más en identificar desafíos potenciales temprano, no en descartar tu creatividad.
7
Sarah (Female)
I appreciate you explaining that. It helps to understand your perspective. I just hope that in the future, we can fully explore ideas before rushing to critique them.
Aprecio que me hayas explicado eso. Ayuda a entender tu perspectiva. Solo espero que en el futuro, podamos explorar plenamente las ideas antes de precipitarnos a criticarlas.
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Michael (Male)
Absolutely, I can definitely work on that. Thanks for bringing this to my attention, Sarah. It's important to me that you feel heard and respected.
Absolutamente, puedo encargarme de eso sin duda. Gracias por hacérmelo saber, Sarah. Para mí es importante que te sientas escuchada y respetada.
9
Sarah (Female)
Thanks, Michael. I appreciate you listening and understanding.
Gracias, Michael. Aprecio que me escuches y me entiendas.

Vocabulary

Essential words and phrases from the dialogue

brushed off

To be ignored or dismissed rudely, like when someone doesn't pay attention to your words. Useful in conversations about feeling unimportant.

Ser ignorado o despedido groseramente, como cuando alguien no presta atención a tus palabras. Útil en conversaciones sobre sentirse insignificante.

intention

Your planned purpose or goal behind an action. Use it to explain what you meant to do, like 'That wasn't my intention.'

Tu propósito o meta planeada detrás de una acción. Úsalo para explicar qué querías hacer, como 'Esa no era mi intención.'

jumped to conclusions

To form an opinion too quickly without all the facts. Common in misunderstandings, e.g., 'Don't jump to conclusions.'

Formar una opinión demasiado rápido sin todos los hechos. Común en malentendidos, p. ej., 'No saques conclusiones precipitadas.'

feasibility

Whether something is possible or practical to do. Often used in work or project talks, like discussing if an idea can work.

Si algo es posible o práctico de hacer. A menudo usado en charlas de trabajo o proyectos, como discutir si una idea puede funcionar.

dismissed

To reject or ignore something without considering it seriously. Helpful for expressing when you feel your ideas are not valued.

Rechazar o ignorar algo sin considerarlo seriamente. Útil para expresar cuando sientes que tus ideas no son valoradas.

made up your mind

To decide firmly about something. Use in conflicts to describe someone who won't listen to new information.

Decidir firmemente sobre algo. Usar en conflictos para describir a alguien que no escucha nueva información.

come across

To seem or appear in a certain way to others. Like 'It came across as rude,' meaning it seemed rude even if not intended.

Parecer o darse a entender de cierta manera a los demás. Como 'It came across as rude', que significa que pareció grosero aunque no fuera la intención.

appreciate

To be grateful for something. Polite way to thank someone, e.g., 'I appreciate your help,' in resolving talks.

Estar agradecido por algo. Forma educada de agradecer a alguien, por ejemplo, 'Aprecio tu ayuda', en la resolución de conversaciones.

Key Sentences

Important phrases to remember and practice

Hey Michael, can we talk for a minute? I felt a bit brushed off earlier when I was trying to explain my idea for the project.

This uses an 'I' statement ('I felt') to express feelings without blaming. Useful for starting a calm conversation about a misunderstanding; the question 'can we talk' shows politeness.

Esto usa una declaración en 'yo' ('me sentí') para expresar sentimientos sin culpar. Útil para iniciar una conversación calmada sobre un malentendido; la pregunta '¿podemos hablar?' muestra cortesía.

I'm sorry if it came across that way. That wasn't my intention at all.

A gentle apology that acknowledges how actions seemed, not admitting full fault. 'Came across' explains appearance; great for diffusing tension without over-apologizing.

Una disculpa suave que reconoce cómo parecieron las acciones, sin admitir toda la culpa. 'Came across' explica la apariencia; genial para disipar la tensión sin disculparse en exceso.

Can you tell me more about what happened?

An open-ended question to encourage sharing and show active listening. Use it to seek clarification and build understanding in conflicts.

Una pregunta abierta para fomentar el compartir y mostrar escucha activa. Úsala para buscar aclaraciones y construir comprensión en conflictos.

So, if I'm understanding you correctly, you felt I dismissed your thoughts too quickly and didn't give your idea a fair hearing? Is that right?

Paraphrasing to confirm understanding, using 'if I'm understanding you correctly' for accuracy. This active listening technique prevents further misunderstandings; ends with a yes/no question for confirmation.

Parafraseando para confirmar la comprensión, usando 'si te estoy entendiendo correctamente' para precisión. Esta técnica de escucha activa previene malentendidos adicionales; termina con una pregunta sí/no para confirmación.

Exactly. It felt like you'd already made up your mind, and I just wanted to be heard fully before any judgments were made.

Agrees and elaborates feelings with 'It felt like' for personal perspective. 'Be heard fully' emphasizes needing complete attention; useful in 'I' statements to clarify needs.

Está de acuerdo y elabora sentimientos con 'It felt like' para perspectiva personal. 'Be heard fully' enfatiza la necesidad de atención completa; útil en declaraciones 'I' para aclarar necesidades.

I see. I apologize, Sarah. I was probably trying to be efficient and didn't realize how that might have come across.

Starts with 'I see' to show empathy, then apologizes and explains own side. 'Come across' discusses perception; helps in balancing apology with self-explanation.

Comienza con 'I see' para mostrar empatía, luego se disculpa y explica su propio lado. 'Come across' discute la percepción; ayuda a equilibrar la disculpa con la autoexplicación.

I appreciate you explaining that. It helps to understand your perspective.

Expresses thanks and acknowledges the other's view. 'Appreciate' is polite gratitude; use after hearing explanations to show mutual respect and end positively.

Expresa gracias y reconoce la visión del otro. 'Appreciate' es una gratitud educada; úsalo después de escuchar explicaciones para mostrar respeto mutuo y terminar positivamente.

Absolutely, I can definitely work on that. Thanks for bringing this to my attention, Sarah.

Agrees strongly with 'Absolutely' and commits to change with 'I can work on that.' Shows willingness to improve; useful for closing resolutions on a positive note.

Está de acuerdo fuertemente con 'Absolutely' y se compromete al cambio con 'I can work on that.' Muestra disposición a mejorar; útil para cerrar resoluciones en una nota positiva.